Well here we go again. Here in Florida we have a very sad case of abuse taking place. We have a woman who has been under a death watch for years...being held hostage in a horrible tug of war between her parents and her husband.
Last year, after God knows how many years, enough people were up in arms over this woman's treatment that Governor Bush stepped up to the plate and had a law passed that protected her rights as an individual.
Today, our wonderful State Supreme Court overturned the law on one technicality. Now the ball is back in the parents court..do they press on? Find that last bit of inner strength to try to defend their beloved daughter's right to life?
Right now I'd really settle for a King Solomon's judgement, it would be better than the crap we get from our Supreme Courts. But, unfortunately, I believe the husband would allow "his" baby to be split in half rather than to walk away and let the people that love her take care of her.
For the love of God...this woman breathes, she smiles, her eyes are open....who knows what she thinks? If this is allowed, this is the start of something very ugly my friends...really. Do you want someone else to decide the quality of your life? Well, if this goes this way...that's what is next. Oh...what about people who have woken up after years in a coma? I guess they should feel grateful they weren't married to someone like this guy.
Oh, in case you are wondering, the husband has forbidden any theraphy for her FOR YEARS!!! He also has in previous years stopped her FAMILY from even visiting her...he didn't want her videoed either...what does that tell you?
I tell you a dog has been treated fairer than this woman....
I'm adding this web site to this entry..didn't have it yesterday...it explains about Terry and her parents fight..http://www.terrisfight.org/
I'll put it in comments too I'm not sure the link is working up here......Sandi
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This case right here shows how important it is for people to have living wills or at least tell tell close friends and family their desires if ever in this situation. I, myself, have a verbal living will. My parents, friends, family all know how I feel about being hooked up to machines of any kind to breath, eat, or in any way be helping me to sustain my life.
Steph~
I have a living will in place so something like this never happens to me, I took it upon myself to not have my family make that kind of decision. Personally I KNOW I would not like to continue living under those circumstances. I also wouldn't want my family suspended in time forever waiting for me to wake up again. I would want to be at peace and I would find that peace on the other side. Its a difficult situtation for all involved. I pray for peace to come to those involved in this story.
That's why Living Wills are so important. Most people don't like thinking about it, but it's necessary to make your wishes known. There's been speculation for many years about her husband, that he may have had something to do with her "heart attack"...for him, it's been about the money and just being an ass. Karma, he'll get his one day.
Not to mention the husband has had a girlfirend for the last few years (not sure how long) and a child with her. I know there was money from a settlement because of Terri's illness...a vitamin deficiency that was not diagnosed therefore caused her to have the heart attack.. (I think that's it)
Living wills are important for just this very reason. I do know the video tape the parents took was over 4 hours but only had a few minutes of her with any response. I don't remember what they are saying about her brain wave activity and how low it is.. (I think husnands Drs are saying it's non existant while the parents Drs are saying there is activity) however.. It all depends which Drs you get.. and that's what I don't understand.. how can one doctor say there is activity and another say there isn't any? Only reason I can see so far is it depends on who is paying them.
But.. I still say he's holding out for the money which the law says he is legally entitled to even though he "said" he would give it up and donate it.. There is nothing stopping him from changing his mind once she is no longer alive and nothing the law can do to him I don''t think.
Oops sorry to take yup all this room in your comment section.. just wanted to add my 2 cents worth. If her husnabd was any kind of decent person,, He would sign over guardianship and the money to the parents and get a divorce through the courts.
Tasia
If this woman could feel, she would feel so humiliated by what the nurses and doctors must do to keep her alive that she would want to die. I know I would, I've seen what it's like.
The Supreme Court held up our right to choose...The man and wife in this story are an example of why one should have advanced directives, and why same sex marriages should be legal.
Scott
Difficult situation. Happened to a friend of mine whose husband was badly injured in a car accident. He could breath unaided but that was about all. He could not talk or recognise anyone, just laid there with a vacant stare. He had many epileptic fits per day and kept going down with one infection after another. So many times she was called to the hospital because it was "the end" only for him to recover due to ongoing treatment. She had two small daughters and their whole lives were torn apart. In the end she begged the doctors that if he got really bad again they were not to continue treatment. They ignored her. So years dragged on, the girls grew up and married and she was still in the same position. She felt she could not see other men because it would be being unfaithful to him. So her live was destroyed along with his.
Living wills are the only answer I feel.
IT MAKES ME SAD TO HEAR THIS STORY. BUT I AGREE WITH THE PARENTS I WOULD FIGHT TO THE END IF THERE WAS A POSSIBILITY THAT MY CHILD WOULD COME THRU SUCH AN ORDEAL. FOR THE HUSBAND HE SHOULD NOT BE ALLOWED TO MAKE HIS WIFES DISSICIONS IF HE DOES NOT HAVE HER BEST INTEREST IN HEART.
IF HE PULLS THE PLUGS FROM WHAT YOU HAVE WRITTEN SHE WILL KNOW. IT MUST BE KILLING HER IN SIDE TO BE GOING THRU THIS. I BELIEVE THAT PEOPLE IN COMAS ARE AWARE OF WHAT IS GOING ON.
I FEEL FOR THIS WOMEN AND HER PARENTS. THEY WILL BE IN MY PRAYERS.
Do you have an article I could read on this? I'm a bit lost here. What's going on?
Blessings. :)
http://journals.aol.com/glopsblink/ATreasureTroveofGoodies
ITS OBVIOUS WHY THE HUSBAND IS DOING ALL OF THIS. HE HAS A CHILD WITH ANOTHER WOMAN, YET CONTINUES TO FIGHT WITH HIS INLAWS TO END HIS WIFE'S LIFE. HES MONEY HUNGRY. GREEDY GREEDY GREEDY. THATS ALL THERE IS TO IT. IN MY OPINION.
KIM.
I thank everyone for their comments..I found the link for Terri's websit its..
http://www.terrisfight.org/ See she's not in a regular "comma" just lying there she makes noises, her eyes follow you, she almost smiles when her mom comes to her....her hand are curled, granted, but her husband has not allowed theraphy for her since 1991...she was placed in a Hospice to die not to receive any form of treatment. Last year, he convinced a lower court judge to let them remove her feeding tube that (I think it's directly into her stomach) no, water, no food for almost 7 days...until the parents won a stay. My God...is this man a cruel piece of work or what? Now he wants to starve her again - until it works.
wow i hope it turns out for the best....i cant believe there are actually people like this in the world
http://journals.aol.com/crzyazzbum/MyJOuRnaL/<-----thats my journal link read it and add a comment bu be nice lol im not a professional writer!!!
http://journals.aol.com/crzyazzbum/MyJOuRnaL/ <-----thats the link my bad the other one has the dumb arrow in behind it so it wont wrk ; )
Hopefully the parents win because thats where she belongs.
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