At the very last minute my son's girlfriend backed out of the plans to move to Portland, Oregon. Evidently she is/was scared of traveling so far from her family, even to follow someone that she professed to love. It was needlessly cruel to wait till the last moment to back out. My son just walked away from everything, took his knapsack, laptop - a few personal items - bought a ticket and flew out by himself.
He was determined to follow his dream. Florida has never suited him, he hated the heat, the humidity, the boredom that besets most of the youth down here. There is no "living on the edge" in Saint Petersburg..most of the sidewalks are pulled in after 9 P.M. Some of his happiest memories are of visiting his big sister in New York City, awestruck by the complexity of the "big City".
He tells me he has given up on love and I know that he says that because he is hurting. Love hurts. He's a fine young man, no longer my baby...but he grew up well into a caring, wonderful human being who, I hope, one day will find his one true love, the forever love that never leaves. I want that for him so much.
He seems to be adapting. My brother in law took him to the local union and believe it or not he wound up finding a terrific job, at almost double what he was making here! I realize how hard it is to go from a committed relationship to being alone in a strange city...so my thoughts are with him throughout my day.
I know he will make friends out there and, of course, my sister and her husband have been wonderfully helpful.
I still wish we had teleportation for real. Zip...in...Zip out....I'd be a fast moving Momma......
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((((((((Sandi))))))))))
It's hard being so far from a son when you know he's in pain. I'm so sorry things turned out the way they have for him. Love does hurt. Here's fervently hoping there will be an upward turn for him.
Glad to hear he has found a good job. Maybe the rest will follow.
Separation, carries it's own pain I understand the feelings your carrying. I still carry those for my daughter and it's been 5 years, but it does soften.
Peace
Bless him!!! Awesome to follow his dream anyway... and the right woman will be there. Good for him! I guess you are flying out to visit and help out? Have a great visit...
be well,
Dawn
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I agree...imagine if he married her & they had a child...she would have held him back. He'll find someone just perfect for him. He just needs to be patient. How wonderful that he already has a job. At least it's cooler here right now than it is in Florida. (That can be good & bad) LOL It sounds like he's in good hands. My hat's off to him & his courage to move on with his life. Linda in WA
I'm wishing your son the very best of luck in Oregon. Let's hope he can find a girl who will be the one to share his life and dreams with. That was mean of his girlfriend to wait till the last minute before backing out. Jeannette xx http://journals.aol.co.uk/jlocorriere05/Welcometomytravels/
it is so hard to have to watch them live their own life but hey I am all for that zippen I wish I could take care of a few things for my older kids
hugs
Sherry
CONGRATS to your son for going it alone.... for following his dream, and venturing out. I hate Los Angeles, too.... and I LOVE Oregon, so many times I've thought about moving there, but there's always something holding me back (mainly, I'm a chicken to go by myself), so I'm VERY PROUD of your son for JUST DOING IT!!!! GOOD FOR HIM!!!!!!!!
Joann
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