For some reason I like this little clamshell guy...maybe because he reminds me of most of us. Hiding in our shells, afraid to reach out and touch someone else. Hesitant to interact on any level that might be construed as - wow...a "serious" relationship.
Women today complain that there are no "good" men out there...that they are either sex freaks, mama's boys, or gay. I don't know about that. I think you have to put your time into a relationship and it goes both ways.
Think about it, you meet a guy or girl you are at your best, all dressed up - or as my Momma used to say "cleaned up well". You also are on your very best behavior, watching what you say and what you do...by all means pick up the right fork! God forbid you should spill anything at dinner. Yep...you are just about perfect - and that is what is all wrong.
Perfection in a relationship is a killer - it's not real. It lacks the basic nitty gritty of life itself....real life sometimes gets dirty, painful, full of angst. It's at that point where you want your relationship to be - in a place where you know someone has got your back! That your "rock" is right there with you, going nowhere always steadfast.
Sort of like Angel & Buffy, or Spike & Buffy (hey, she's not stupid) hell, all the great lovers in history. Granted sometimes they burnt out quickly - but oh my...what a glorious flame.
Steadfast, that the kind of relationship I wish my two sons would find. It's the only kind that lasts. It's the only one worth any kind of sacrifice....that rarity called real love.
PS..I did sneak hubby and I up there - after 25 years I thought we would qualify as definitely "steadfast", although there were moments...LOL
9 comments:
This is so true, you can only have a real relationship with someone you know through and through. You and hubby make a handsome pair!! Jeannette.
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Jingle Bells!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Jingle Bells!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jingle All The Way!
Merry Christmas!!
Love,
Dianna
I know what you mean about steadfast. Too many people want the romantic I'll be in love with you forever starry moments when you have butterflies in your stomach and you can't live without them - that only lasts for a bit and then they aren't willing to work on developing a relationship that will last forever. My husband me steadfastly have been together 25 years too. I pray my son finds a good Godly girl and that they together will hold on to the vows they make in front of the Lord.
Nice picture of you and your husband :)
betty
In your stack of pictures I found one real one. The one of you and your husband. Life is such that 'steadfast' is the one true way to maintain a lasting relationship. This was a very nice entry. Pennie
Oy, I needed to read something like this today..my less-than-perfect but very loved hubby is making me loony. Thanks for saying it.
Tina
amen, sister!
it takes time and commitment...without the expectation of perfection. well said.
Yes you definitely qualify as "steadfast" - such lovely pictures - lovely entry....Ally
I loved the picture of you and hubby...wonderful entry!
I believe Marriage is like a rollar coaster ride - lots of high highs- lots of low lows- the trick is to just stay on the ride... because if you get off- you just find another one with different highs and lows because there is no merry go round perfect marriage! [married 22 years next month!]
I like your journal! Come see mine if you'd like!
Kendra
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